Last minute rush!

Last-minute rush! Happens in everyone’s life, and many times. The chance of missing a train, reaching late for a movie or not being able to reach on time to office creates a rush. We try to get ready, to maintain the time, but in that process of rushing, we miss something. More often than not, we are able to make it on the time for which we do make haste, but miss something even more essential for the day, something like a laptop, charger, entry card or something – which keeps bothering us throughout the day. You will not be fully present in yourself while running at this breakneck speed.

What’s the benefit of such a hurry? Well, it’s never intentional. It is just situational. But the real question is do we create such a situation or allow it to happen? Yes, sometimes in greed to spend some more time in bed in the morning, we get late for office. Sometimes in the office, a meeting gets stretched, we are not able to get out of it, and a delay happens. Occasionally, social functions hold us up till late, even though we are not required there. Sometimes even friends force us to spend a few more minutes with them, which results in a hectic hustle.

To avoid such a situation is many times in our hands. It needs a bit of time management, setting up of priority and to a certain extent social skills. If it is about an individual schedule, which you are unable to maintain, better to review your schedule, apply some of the lessons of time management and re-work your routine. This can be the case for those who get up late in the morning and miss office time. If there are hundreds of things taking up your time, coming one after another on your table, better to work on prioritisation skills. However, in a few events, you get stuck because of the inability to say that you have to leave. It happens informal events where your seniors are present, it also happens in social functions where elders are pressing for your presence. But a bit of soft voice, requesting tone and language of seeking approval would perhaps help in getting a safe and timely exit.

In short, if you do not want to rush without combing your hair or getting your tie knot properly, do manage the time and situation in such a way that it doesn’t affect your fixed scheduled tasks. Because some programmes in your diary are not flexible, eg train or flight, office or meeting. Some of them may certainly be less important than the activity which is taking longer to finish, but still, they are unavoidable and hence time should be respected. So, remember, setting the priority, allocation of time and asking for exit is not dependent only on the importance of the next event, but also on the urgency and avoidability. If something next is avoidable, no problem in getting late there. So, no need to rush. But if you ever rush, there is a chance that you will miss something which will tickle you the whole day. To avoid that irritation, avoid rush.

Don’t pretend to be someone else

Don’t pretend to be someone else. Everyone has a role model to follow. But it has to be for inspiration, not imitation. A colleague in the office getting fast promotion due to superb selling skills should not lead you to believe that you will be successful by changing your department from finance to sales. Don’t follow anyone blindly. Sometimes as an easy formula for quick success, we are misguided to follow or imitate someone. Everyone has his/her own inherent personality and character.

If you try to change it and emulate someone else, it is an assured shortcut toward disaster. Don’t ever try to do that, even for the sake of the biggest bonanza on the prize. Someone wearing a slim fit suit, and looking handsome, should not lead you to believe that the same style will fit you well too. Anyone speaking in a particular manner and accent should not steer you to presume it would be best for you to use the same. Even if advised or asked, think twice before initiating such imitation.

It is of utmost importance that you remain what you are. Never try to pretend to be someone else. Even in the situation when you are impressed with someone by his/her skill or personality, never copy. The rule of ‘fake it till you make it’, is absolutely misleading, and it actually misleads you, not others. Trying to imbibe someone else’s fashion and persona is not advisable. Because you would lose originality. Plus, whatever you pretend to be has no solid substance behind it. The whole exercise turns out to be a hollow act that no one likes. Having said that, learning a new skill like someone else is not at all a problem. Rather one should be always open to accepting knowledge from others, whatever good they can impart. But it should be developed into a rock sound base, not just a thin surface. Otherwise, it becomes like applying a layer of make-up, which we know will come off by the end of the day. So, whatever is not permanent, is only an accessory and can serve a limited purpose. Remember, the substance is different and difficult to achieve. It’s not an easy formula to have a quick fix to repair shortcomings. To build permanent mastery, one has to be oneself. Whatever best you want to achieve in life can come only through determination, hard work and patience, not by imbibing others. So, never try to be someone else, just be yourself.